How do I know if...

neutrois:

One of the most common FAQs I get is people asking for advice on figuring out their identity. The question looks something like this:

I dress X and feel Y and people think I’m Z but they tell me I can’t be A because of B. What am I / How do I know if I am genderqueer / trans / androgynous / ftm / neutrois / agender / gender-fluid / butch / a snuffleafaugus?

There is no one way to know, or one moment where it all becomes clear. Little by little you keep exploring your outsides and your insides, until you realize slowly that you might be this, and then more slowly you realize perhaps you might be that, and then one day you just know.

I’ve gone back and tagged all the posts that fall into this category, so you can browse them with the “identity” tag here.

Here’s a list of related posts: 

• A little about my process of discovering my identity
• General Advice for Figuring Out Your Gender Identity and Transition Path from Art of Transliness
• Thoughts on their evolving Gender Identity from Butch in the South
• What is Genderqueer? From GQID
• A list of identities and concepts under the Genderqueer and/or Trans* umbrella. From GQID
• On Neutrois… from me

I’ll update this list as necessary. Feel free to suggest additional links as well.